Cherish your solitude. Take trains by yourself to places you have never been. Sleep out alone under the stars. Learn how to drive a stick shift. Go so far away that you stop being afraid of not coming back. Say no when you don’t want to do something. Say yes if your instincts are strong, even if everyone around you disagrees. Decide whether you want to be liked or admired. Decide if fitting in is more important than finding out what you’re doing here – Eve Ensler
I had never heard of Sarah’s story!
As I’ve grown up into a young woman, I have faced my fair share of challenges across the spectrum. With all these challenges and trials, I’ve found myself clawing at the dark ever so often and in my quest to center and focus, I came across, “Lost and Found, Finding HOPE in the Detours of Life,” by Sarah Jakes (now Sarah Jakes Roberts).
This book, this woman, this story of unconditional love, absolutely blew me away!
There is so much heart and emotion in this book that at times, I found myself laughing, smiling, crying, and there was a night, I had to stop reading and curled up in a ball on my bed and bawled my eyes out.
It wasn’t pity that reduced me to tears streaming uncontrollably down my face, it was wonder at the Love of Christ and how it has the redeeming power to bring anyone back from deviating so far off the path of life he/she is supposed to walk on. In some ways, I saw myself in Sarah.
She wrote something that brought me to my knees – literally. It read, “Some people learn worship by watching others. Others experience it by experiencing a struggle so great they have no other way to release the relentless shame, the terrifying fear or unbearable pain.” This excerpt is one that I can personally relate to on so many different levels. You see the Bible says that “God is spirit [the Source of life, yet invisible to mankind], and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth” – John 4:24 AMP and this excerpt from Lost and Found made me realize why I am all about worship. It is because I have been at place where the world did not have the solution and the only hope I had was God and it’s always been HIM. So, I am quick to lift my hands to Him in worship and supplication without inhibitions and just let the praise up.
Sarah Jakes Roberts also explored the complexities of her relationships and she noted something profound, “You cannot desire trust and sow betrayal.” As she described her tumultuous relationship, it made me wonder how many young women like herself and myself have validated and accepted “less,” because we refused to acknowledge how much Jesus has already provided. I remember rebuking myself as I recalled every time I let someone made me feel less or not deserving of the best. I was wrong, – to myself and to my Creator, because I let that happen.
Every time I accepted something that bruised me, but didn’t break me, I lost. – Sarah Jakes Roberts
There is so much in this book, and I do not want to share it all, because I think it is something you must read yourself and fully grasp and understand and make it yours.
What I will say is, Sarah’s story ends well! Very well actually, not by surprise to me anyway, because when Jesus is the author and the finisher of your faith, (Hebrews 12:2 KJV) your story can only have a great ending – upward and forward only.
As I prepare to bid you “Adieu,” I’d like to add a personal note here. When I picked up this book it was because I had just found myself broken and hurt and in need of finding clarity and my way. This book did so much for me. I am not where I am supposed to be yet, but this was a start and I am farther along in my journey now. So if you’re feeling down, dejected, alone, and lost, I want to assure you, that you are not alone and there is room at the Cross. God’s Grace is sufficient and it can do exceedingly, abundantly, much more than we could ever ask for or imagine.
So, as I wrap up here and hope to God that you go pick up this book, I’d like to leave you with one thing;
“Love should be used as a tool, not a weapon. Like a tool, love should be used to build something incredible, not to destroy fragile material.” – Sarah Jakes Roberts.
It’s been so long.
I have so much to say and share with you all, but life has taken a will of its own. I am so busy, I barely find leisure time, but I am hoping to have more time to write, share, and fellowship with you all. I cannot make any promises that my time on this site will become more consistent, but I am hoping that this will get better.
I’ve missed writing and sharing on this platform, so I will do better and pray that somewhere, somehow, I am inspiring someone out there.
My next post will be a book review (whoo hoo – I’m back with Book Nooks) and I hope you will check it out.
Love and Hugs,
Happy 2017 – Flourish like the palm tree.
“Be decisive. Right or wrong, make a decision. The road of life is paved with flat squirrels who couldn’t make a decision.” – Unknown
The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page.” – Saint Augustine.
Welcome to my London photo dairy and here’s to many more! There is something amazing about being in a different country. The feeling of adventure and wanderlust. Meeting strangers; a random 15 minute conversation with an Australian lady on the London Eye, broken Spanish with an Argentinian man in St. James Park, asking a Russian young lady to take a picture in front of The National Museum and Trafalgar Square, stopping rail workers for help with navigating the underground, overground, and regular trains. I loved being in a foreign country and all the possibilities that it presents. I can’t wait for the next adventure.
Thanks for for stopping by and see you soon.
Love & Hugs,
Happy New Year!!!! (Cue fireworks, bangers, etc). I am hoping 2015 was good to you all and filled with great laughter, love, joy, peace, and happiness.
This will be a short write up! So here goes,
Thank you for clicking on that link from Google, Facebook, Instagram, emails, etc that led you to my blog. Thank you for taking time to read my posts, leaving comments (which I do try to reply as soon as possible), and for all the likes. I really do appreciate you all.
Here’s to 2016 being bigger, brighter, lighter, and more glorious than ever before. Remember you are like leaven and you grow and spread until you fill the place you’re occupying. I love you all.
Look out for more posts coming soon and click that button to follow my thoughts.
Love and Hugs,
Hello once again,
It’s the start of the holiday season and while we are all diving into dinner, telling stories by the fireplace or around the dinner table, playing board and card games with family and friends, and rummaging through Pre-Black Friday deals etc, etc, etc, I want to stop for a second and reflect on the year so far. I have so much to be thankful for, but I have narrowed down a few that have become my everyday reality.
I am thankful because;
- I am alive TO GOD!
- Of my family’s love and support and that they are blessed, alive, and living in divine health.
- My mother prays – Thanks Mom, your prayers have pulled me through some difficult times.
- For the support system of my church – they are the true MVPs.
- For my wonderful friends who are such beautiful people inside and out. You ladies and gents are the “biz.”
- I graduated from undergraduate school this year (Psst…and off to graduate school next year). Whoo-hoo!!!!
- The opportunity to learn and to grow has been given to me.
- The Church (according to Christ) is coming together to pray and lift our world to our Lord. #PrayForOurWorld
- I get to work with amazing men and women who have served in the U.S. military, and everyday I learn to appreciate all they’ve done.
- Of you all who read my blog – thank you so much for indulging me.
- I got to be with loved ones today, laughed, danced, smiled, missed those who aren’t here, but above all, for having the opportunity to be thankful.
I hope you all have had a blessed giving of thanks day, but remember that we are beseeched to give thanks always, even when things do not seem to be working out the way we want. Today is just one day, however the chance to be thankful and grateful for all the little and large blessings everyday is the true blessing.
Love and Thanks,
Lately, I have been getting a lot of questions regarding this topic. The questions range from, “Are you dating?” to “Are you thinking about marriage?” and quite frankly the answer is too complex. I am a young woman and yes someday I do want to get married to the right man for all the right reasons.
But right here in this moment, I am a 22-year-old who honestly has no idea what loving a complete stranger and living with that one person for the rest of my life entails. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think anyone can prepare for marriage, because it is my opinion that marriage is a dynamic life, constantly changing, morphing, and metamorphosing.
Marriage: The purpose of marriage is to reflect the relationship of the Godhead and to serve him. – BibleStudyTools
When I put a note down about writing this post, it was about me wanting to vent and wishing people would stop asking me when am I going to get married and so on (It is too much pressure.) But, as I am writing this post, I realize I do not want people to stop asking me these questions. Yes I am young and have no idea what marriage is about – does anyone really? I want people (meaning my family, friends, mentors, and church) to keep asking, because it keeps me accountable for the actions I take today. It is a constant reminder that I do not belong to myself – I belong to God and He has created someone for me that he knows can love me, grow me, and bring me closer to Him. If I am called to a different purpose, then so be it too.
Dating/Courtship: is the practice of learning about someone enough to know whether or not the two are compatible for marriage. It may involve friendship, discussing each individual’s future plans, knowing the parents if they’re alive, and praying privately for God’s will in the matter. – Tom Brown
Dating without intention – i.e. dating just to date is a very dangerous game – especially if both people have not consented to do so ie: one person hasn’t been completely honest about their intentions. I have realized with the help of an amazing group of God-fearing women and men around me, that there is no such thing as “dating just to date.” Usually one person or both people leave the relationship hurt, because we invest in everything me do – emotionally, spiritually, with our time etc. As a woman, I used to feel expecting a man who is dating me to have intentions of marriage towards me (somewhere down the line) was too demanding or a bit too forward thinking. It just seemed so “uncool.” It was better to be the chill girlfriend who would say things like, “Am not ready to get married yet, so why should I sweat it.” Oh, but one fine day I met my day of discernment, when I said the same words and someone asked, “Then, why are you dating?”
For the first time, I had nothing tangible to say. The truth dawned on me. I did not know why I was dating. If this person asked me to marry him in that moment, would I say yes? Would I be willing to marry that day? My answers were all resounding nos. These nos hitting me like soccer-punches in the gut. I felt convicted, judged, and sentenced with one word. “No.”
Nevertheless, I say all this to make the point that though I have no idea when I will get married, I am not completely averse to being asked these questions anymore. Many people my age will not agree with me and that’s fine. I am not seeking approval from anyone, but simply sating my own opinion and choices.
I love what marriage is all about at the core of it all. I love seeing my friends get engaged and married, because I know they are ready and are happy. One day, I’ll get there, just not today.
So, my honest answer is, “I am taking my time to discover myself, who I am, what I have to offer, and who I have been called to be.”
Love and Hugs,
Dating without the intent of getting married is like going to the grocery store with no money. You either leave unsatisfied or take something that isn’t yours.” – Anonymous
Hello beautiful people, How are you all doing? Splendid I hope.
- Make a conscious effort to feed good things into your life, for instance, my alarm clock is not that blaring “beep,beep,beep” sound because hearing it puts me in a bad mood, so I opted for Superman by Martin Pk. It’s upbeat and has a powerful message. Sometimes I just let it play and listen to the words before getting out of bed.
- Talk to God – this is very important, I find myself most uneasy and stressed when I sacrifice my relationship with God for something else.
- On my way to work, the radio in the car is almost always on a station that fuels me with optimism, drive, and prepares me for the battles that day.
- I try my best to speak words of success and strength into my life and not failure and weakness.
- Furthermore, my private life is private, and I control what, when, and who I share it with. It minimizes people’s interference and hence, you don’t constantly have to figure out whether it is your spirit talking or the opinions of others.
- I have a notepad or journal and a pen with me always.
(I recently purchased the Passion Planner and it has been such a great tool to help me figure out my time and schedule what’s most important. www.passionplanner.com)
“Decluttering your life means getting rid of the unnecessary to leave time for the necessary.” ~ Lindon and Sherry Gareis
No, this is not a figment of your imagination. I am writing again! I have missed writing so much, but very excited to be back reading and writing. I am so sorry for not keeping up with my blog these last couple of months. I have been so busy with completing my degree, work life, and personal life, that there hasn’t been much room to keep up writing as I would have loved to.
Nevertheless, I want to say a BIG THANK YOU to all my readers and subscribers who have left comments and likes on some of my older posts. Thank you so much. It means a great deal.
On a more uplifting note, I have been going through some personal self discovery and re-defining my life in the way The Lord has planned, so today I want to share a few books that I am currently reading as I am on this journey. One of my main goals has been replacing the negative and bad things with good things in order to renew my mind and rejuvenate my spirit.
Most of these books you can probably get at your local public library and there is a HUGE chance that you will NOT have to be in a queue to pick it up.
- The Prodigal God – Timothy Keller
- Crazy Love; Overwhelmed by a relentless GOD – Francis Chan
- IMAGINE – How Creativity Works
- The Thing Around Your Neck – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
- The Alchemist – Paulo Coelho (This was a graduation present and I haven’t gone in depth with the reading, but I have heard great things about this piece. If you have read it, let me know what you think in the comments section. I’d love to hear from you all).
In fact, if you have read any of these and wish to leave a quick note about your impressions, other book suggestions and such, please do so. I’d love to read them all.
So, that’s that – for now. I will most likely be posting a review on these books when I am done reading them. I promise to be honest and upfront about my opinions based on my experiences and the path I am on.
Thank you for taking out time to read my post and until next time.
In the meantime, I would like to leave you with; Psalm 119:105 (AMP) – “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”
Love and Hugs,